Thursday, May 13, 2010

You're TOO Young...

You're too young... It seems to be a phrase that is used very often around me. 


Normally, the conversation includes something like this:
Other person: "Wow, you look so young to have/be...., How old are you?"
Me: "I'm 20."
Other: "Wow, you're soooo young... "


With turning 21 at the end of this month, I have been thinking about everything that I have done in my life thus far, and looking forward to life a head of me. 
A lot of people seem shocked at my age. Over and over and over. It seems to be a continuos cycle. I often get asked about why I decided to get married so young or why I'm not "trying to enjoy my college life more". I have always been stunned by this. 


Throughout my life, I have often been told by people who are older than I am that I am very mature for my age, which is probably from my family's situation. So, I find it very interesting when people that I am meeting now, who do not know my history or family, always ask me if I think I'm too young. I always answer with "Not everyone is called to marriage this young, but I am sure I made the right choice." As coworkers, and others, continue to ask questions about why, my family's story start to emerge. I truly think that God has called me to be an example to others of how to live a happy and fulfilling life. Many people ask me why I am "throwing my life away" by getting married and that I'll miss out on having fun.  I find my life fun, full of responsibility, but fun. And I wouldn't change my decision to get married young, even though it means making a lot of sacrifices at some points. 


I have found one Bible verse in particular to be my motto in life:
"Do not let anyone treat you as if you are unimportant because you are young. Instead, be an example to the believers with your words, your actions, your love, your faith, and your pure life." ~~~~   1 Timothy 4:12


I try to live my life so that I can be an example. God has graced me with a family that makes it very easy for my decisions to be visible. Through the examples of my parents, I strive to live my life in a way that I can point people to God. I find it important to leave my life in God's hands because every time I have left my life in God's hands and have tried to align my will to His will, He has planned something more wonderful than I could have imagined, even though there are many parts of His plan that I do not fully understand nor do I know the full effects of the result of be putting my life in His hands. 


The results of following God's plan, even if it means sacrifice at the time or being uncomfortable, will be far more rewarding than any form of instant gratification or "fun" that I may have encountered by following my own frivolous desires. 


Many people are shocked by everything  I have done in my life, and I think that is because God shocks people with His will. I hope to be able to continue to life my life following His plan so that I will be able to bring more people to understanding true love and responsibility; how they go hand in hand and how they are not a hinderance to a happy and fulfilling life.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

A NEW ARTICLE

As graduation comes closer, God is working on my life. He is constantly helping guide me to become a better person, to be the person he wants me to be...
Through my life journey, I hope to inspire those who need it, those who don't know they need it, and those who have had to overcome obstacles. Even though my story is unique, just like everyone else's, hopefully many people will be able to connect to the story and hopefully it will help them in their time of need!

Today was another exciting step that God has guided me to. I had an article go Live on www.iibloom.com ! Please check it out!
www.iibloom.com

Monday, March 29, 2010

I love BLUE

Today, my friend, Tasha, and I were hanging out. For some reason or another, color and what colors mean came up in the conversation. 


I decided to look up my favorite color, blue. I love every shade of blue. I used blue for my wedding colors, and if you looked at our gift registries, most of the items were a shade of blue. So, when I looked up what the color blue means, I was surprised at what I found. 


According to Emily Gems' meanings of colors, Blue means....
"Blue is the coolest color - the color of the sky, ocean, sleep, twilight. The ancient Egyptians used lapis lazuli to represent heaven. Blue symbolizes the Virgin Mary. A pure blue is the color of inspiration, sincerity and spirituality. Blue is often the chosen color by conservative people. Blue is the calming color. That makes it a wonderful color to use in the home, especially for babies. Blue is so soothing that is a good choice for pajamas. Dark blue is the color of truth and moderation. A blue iris means your friendship is very important to me. Wednesday's color is blue. Blue gemstones to wear to feel calm are blue sapphire and blue topaz."


"Blue Energy
Blue gives a feeling of distance. Artists use it to to show perspective. This is a good way to understand the energy of the color blue - it allows us to look beyond and increase our perspective outward. It contains a cool vibration that is helpful to communication.
The vibration if blue can be used to open energy flow where it is blocked. Using blue to relax will encourage feelings of communication and peace.
Put some blue in your life when you want:
  • calm and relaxation to counteract chaos or agitation
  • to open the flow of communication
  • to broaden your perspective in learning new information
  • solitude and peace "
As I was reading this, the first thing that hit me was how blue symbolizes the Virgin Mary. As a wife, and hopefully, God willing, a mother as well, the Virgin Mary is definitely someone who I should try to follow. By surrounding myself with blue, I can remind myself to be more like the Virgin Mary, Completely obedient to God's will, always. 

Another thing about the color blue that I found interesting is that blue is the color for inspiration, sincerity, and spirituality. I hope that my life can inspire others with my life. I try to always be sincere in all of my relationships and in every situation. I hope to bring spirituality into every aspect of my life, even the day to day things, such as work and chores. 

Another cool thing that blue does is it can be used to encourage feelings of communication. Communication is key in all aspects of life. By surrounding yourself with blue, it can opens up communication in situations that can often be rough and calm them down and allow the communication flow better. 
In my life, using blue for calm and relaxation in order to counteract chaos is a very good plan. My life is always full of chaos, and by surrounding myself with the color blue, I can remind myself to act like the Virgin Mary.





site used: http://crystal-cure.com/blue.html

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

The Business of Being Pregnant in America

One of my classes this past quarter was a documentaries class. In this class we studied documentaries and learned a lot about them. For our final, we were given the option to write a paper. Therefore, I chose to watch two documentaries and compare the way they approached the documentary.

Personally, I enjoyed both of these documentaries and I watched them with my husband, who also got a lot out of the documentaries. I would recommend watching these two documentaries, especially if you are married or expecting a child. 

The Business of Being Pregnant in America

The two documentaries that I chose to watch were The Business of Being Born and Pregnant in America, a nation's miscarriage. Both of these documentaries were recording the present. In both of these documentaries, one of the main people involved in the documentary was pregnant. Although they did talk about things in the past that affect the way we behave today, other than listing off of facts and situations that happened, most of the storyline was in the present. Although each one went about discovering the health care system in America in different ways, they followed the journey of women who were trying to figure out the best way for them to give birth, both with surprise endings to both the people involved and the audience. In both of these documentaries the filmmakers were trying to tell the audience about the fall of the health care system in America and the need to look closely at all of the options that one has when they are pregnant and preparing for giving birth to a child.

Both documentaries definitely used visual evidence in their documentary as well as b-roll or illustrations. In The Business of Being Born, they followed stories of women such as Jen. In addition to Jen's interviews, they showed actual footage of Jen and her midwife going on check-ups. When they interviewed the producer, Ricki Lake, who was also pregnant, they showed pictures of her previous pregnancy when she was describing her first child. In the documentary Pregnant in America, they took a different approach because it was Mandy's first child. In Pregnant in America, Mandy and her husband go all around the world trying to understand the medical health care system in other countries. One of the countries they went to was Holland. In Holland they mainly have home births and a few cases actually get moved over to the regular hospital. When they traveled to Holland, they followed the doctor around to each house after the mother had given birth. This visual evidence of how maternity care is different was also displayed when they went back to his office and spoke with people that were his patients. Unlike the people in America that they interviewed, all of the women in Holland thought you only go to the hospital if something goes wrong. While they were talking about all of this, they showed the doctor actually taking care of the mother and baby and what the prenatal care was like. Both of these films did use b-roll as well as illustrations during some parts of the documentary for different reasons.
In both the Business of Being Born and Pregnant in America, the documentarians are trying to make us rethink the healthcare system, however, they go about it using different techniques. In The Business of Being Born they are trying to make us nervous about the hospitals and how hospitals are working. They showed examples of what happened in the early 1900s and spent a lot of time talking about specifics of what happened in the change from midwifes to hospitals and doctors and what lead us to where we are today. In Pregnant in America, they take you into other parts of the world and try to get the audience to see the difference in mindset that other countries have about birth. They want women to feel embowered through being able to give birth naturally and through the documentary they continue to talk about the importance of being able to birth naturally and that women look like a “birth warrior” when they are giving birth and how breathtaking the moments of birth are that you miss when you are on drugs given at the hospital. They also stress the privacy of giving birth at home.

In The Business of Being Born, the idea is to make a documentary about the options that women have when they are pregnant and how to show the importance of giving birth naturally instead of the dissatisfying experience that many Americans have when they are giving birth in hospitals with medications. In Pregnant in America, the idea is to make a documentary about what Americans think of giving birth and comparing that to what the rest of the world thinks about giving birth and to show the misconceptions that are given to American mothers and the present day problems that occur through the regular health care system.

The concept for The Business of Being Born is to show and portray the importance of giving birth naturally. We would do this through talking about the past and how we got to the hospitalized maternity world. Also, through talking to experts about their experiences and to talk about the fulfillment you feel when you give birth naturally and what you lose when you do not. We will do this through visual evidence, such as footage, past and present, and interviewed with professionals as well as moms who are and are not currently pregnant.

The concept for Pregnant in America is to go through the documentary during the time of Mandy's pregnancy. During her pregnancy, they will go around American cities and ask what they think of labor. Then, go to other countries, such as Holland, and ask the people their what they think the norm is for pregnancy and labor. During this time, we will also talk to people who have lost loved ones through modern medication that was supposed to help them and by using medication that is not supposed not supposed to be used by pregnant women.

In The Business of Being Born, the beginning shows a midwife preparing to go to a woman's house for the birth of a child. It then talks about what people originally think of when they think about having a midwife. It talks about questioning ourselves about maternal health care. Towards the middle it starts to show the evidence on how important natural birth is and what home births are like. It also gives facts throughout about what maternity care is like in America. The conflict talks about the old health care systems and how the health care systems got to get the publicity that it has today and how midwifery has disappeared. At the end of the documentary, it does leave you to figure out that the evidence given to you to understand the importance of natural births to women.

In Pregnant in America, the movie starts out with a women talking about how she is newly pregnant and wants to decide what way is better to deliver her baby. They present the American's view points and experiences and these interviews continue through the documentary. They present evidence of the importance of natural birth coming from not only American's perspective but also other countries around the world. They continue on through to show the controversy with the medications and the misuse of the medications. They also end with leaving all the evidence up to the audience to decide. Interestingly, both of these documentaries end with the women in the hospital. In The Business of Being Born, she ends up needing a C-section for medical reasons and complications. In Pregnant in America, she gives birth at home, and later on goes into the hospital because something wasn't right with the baby anymore. After seven days she came home with the baby, and the hospital never told them what really was wrong with their child. During the credits of Pregnant in America, it continues to tell about what is happening in the lives of the people that they interviewed throughout the documentary after the documentary was done being filmed and put together.

In The Business of Being Born, the interviews were used to carry the whole story. They were played over visual evidence and b-roll. However, in Pregnant in America, the interviews were important, but Mandy's husband was the primary narrator and driver of the story. All of the interviews were to back up what he said.

Both of these documentaries presents a credible argument. They showed visual evidence to add onto what the medical professionals, as well as everyone who was interviewed, were talking about. They both talked about the viewpoints of the hospitals. I found it interesting that both of these documentarians about giving birth naturally and at home ended in the hospital, however, it does show that what they were saying was right. Both of the arguments were that it is better for the woman and the baby to give birth naturally, and if there is a complication, then to allow medical science to take over in order to save the baby and mother's life. Especially in Pregnant in America, they stress the spiritual and emotional needs of the woman and baby to have the child naturally if they are able to. They also stress how women were made to be able to do this, it is something they can do, and when it comes down to it, women are the only ones who can give birth.

There are ethical issues that were addressed in both of these documentaries. This had to do with the “almighty dollar” and whether or not hospitals were trying to get more money faster and efficiently verse natural birth that could take a lot of time. These issues were addressed in the documentaries. In The Business of Being Born, they actually talk to nurses about how it is part of the hospital training to induce labor whenever possible. In Pregnant in America, they address the emotional and spiritual aspects of the natural birthing and the bond between the mother and baby. They also address that the medications that are given to women in order for them to go into labor, is nothing compared to the natural cocktail of hormones that allows the woman and child to bond and allows for the attachment that is needed between the mother and the baby.

The Business of Being Born, was a very professional way of making a documentary. They had very few handheld shots and was filmed similarly to the way a movie would be filmed. I think this added to the professional of the film and when a film is professional the audience tends to believe what it is saying with less hesitation. However, Pregnant in America, was a mix of both handheld shots and steady shots. The framing of interviews also tended to be a lot closer up on the people then other documentarians normally position the cameras. However, for this particular documentary I definitely think it added to the documentary and the authenticity of it. It is a husband, who at the end of the documentary dedicates it to his grandmother, mother, wife, child, and to all women and children. If he were to have professional shots there would be no way I would believe that it was an authentic interpretation. Also, in some scenes all you see is a the bottom of a wood receptionist desk. This is when doctors and employees of hospitals did not want what they said to be recorded. So they asked them to put down the camera. However, he choose to put down the camera with it still on and not to cover it up with b-roll. I felt this was a very strong visualization of how much hospital personnel do not want to deal with these situations.

Overall, I felt that both of these documentaries accomplished their goals and were very educational. I found the extremely captivating. I watched these documentaries with my husband and while we were watching them and after we finished watching them we were talking about the documentary and what we thought we should do when we have to make decisions on prenatal care. I would definitely suggest both of these documentaries to people who are pregnant or plan on being pregnant with in a few years. They make points not only on the physical elements, but also the emotional and spiritual side of this issue that most people in today's society forget about when they think about labor.

I was surprised about how similar these two documentaries view points were. However, I loved that there were two different stories happening and different stories, even if they are on the same subject, can allow different emotions to take over an audience.


Monday, February 8, 2010

Congrats to St. Thomas More

The Bishop of the Diocese of Orange County, Bishop Tod D. Brown, blessed the grounds of their new parish hall. This hall has a place for Masses to be held until the Church is finished being built, as well as a library, meeting rooms, kitchen, and many other wonderful features. 


The grounds of the new buildings are beautifully designed with an out doors stations of the cross as well as a beautiful circle for Church Socials!


They also made it on the news!  
http://www.ocregister.com/news/parish-232136-seat-center.html?pic=6




Congratulations St Thomas More!

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Sisters on Oprah?

So, how crazy is this?? 
On Feb. 9th, Oprah will be having an interview with the Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist. 
My confirmation sponsor is a part of that order!!!


I hope you all tune in!!!




For more information about the Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist community, visit http://www.sistersofmary.org

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

In Defense of Getting Married Young

When Joey and I first got engaged, many people started to question us. We were told that we were too young, that we hadn't experienced enough life yet. They told us to "enjoy college life" or "why don't you travel around the world?"
Because both Joey and I are both in school, we were told going to school and working would be to difficult. 

In my opinion, it definitely is not the right choice for everyone. 

That being said, it is important to follow God's will in your life. 

There are a lot of reason for getting married young. When your lucky enough to have met the person you are going to spend the rest of your life at such a young age, and God calls you to the married life, then it's God's timing. 

I remember reading an article when Joey and I were first considering when we should get married. It was called in defense of marrying young. In this article it talked about a lot of reasons that getting married young is not a bad thing. One thing they talked about was how when you are growing up your patterns and  habits change a lot. When you get into college, you start to settle into your habits, but because of not knowing how your rooming situations will change from year to year, some of your patterns and habits can change. Then, once you start living on your own, your patterns and habits really take hold. And once that has happened, it has made it increasingly harder to change your ways. However, when you get married young, your patterns and habits start to form to each others. I've noticed that there are a lot of things that Joey and I like or don't like, and a lot of them tend to be similar. Our habits and patterns tend to fit into each others because we've, in a sense, have grown up together. 

Another thing that was interesting was when people told us to "enjoy college life" or "travel the world". 
I have found that when people say "enjoy college life" or "travel the world", my first reaction is why wouldn't I want to travel the world or enjoy my college life with my spouse? 

At first glance, working and going to school would look like something that could be really difficult. Luckily, we haven't found this to be as difficult as it may sound. While working and going to school and being a wife can be difficult at times, I have found that working gives me something to do while Joey is at work during the day and I am not at school. 

One of the biggest problems that people were questioning us over was money. Obviously, you need money to live, so therefore, it is important. But, it is not the end all be all. We don't need to be in a mansion and have all of those extra courtesies.  Also, marriage is for richer or poorer. Not just when you have the good times rolling, but also when you have been hit so far down that you can't get back up.

Marriage is sacred and holy. It is a man and woman being joined together with God.

And those are a few of the benefits of getting married young.